Clubs are great. The music, the dancing and, of course, the girls. One big problem is not every guy knows how to approach girls, start a conversation and get a girl to follow them home. We’ve all been there before.
What these guys don’t know however, is there are simple, straightforward ways to approach women, start a conversation and build attraction every single time. Try the approaches next time you’re figuring out how to pick up a girl at a club and see your batting average improve.
Before thinking of picking up any girl in a club, you need to know that women have power(especially in situations like this) and they literally choose who they want to be with. Of course, You choose which girl you to approach, but she chooses who she stays with. And if you aren’t her type, some other guy that is probably drunk is going to approach her and displace you in an instant.
What you should also know is that every girl spend hours in front of mirrors, making-up, fixing their hair and looking sexy. At the end, they will still be insecure about their looks. Think about it for a minute, ask yourself how can you exploit that.
Dress Right
The very first step to getting laid especially in Nigeria is dressing right. It is important to know how to dress. Women will judge you on first look and there isn’t too much space to talk in loud clubs, so they will judge based on what they see.
The Right Approach
Attraction and picking up girls doesn’t begin when you first talk to her. It begins before that with your approach. In fact, your approach begins from the second she sees you. This is why you should always have a solid smile (with your whole face, not just your eyes) and good posture, both of which project friendliness and confidence.
When you do see a girl that you want to approach at a club, do it right away. Take a couple of seconds, man up and approach her with the most confident posture possible.
Opening the Conversation
What to say after you approach a girl. For one, i am a big believer in starting out with playful. Something jokey or a simple compliment that opens up the conversation and gets her interested in talking to you more.
The trick here is not to get the girl at the club to fall in love with you based on the first thing that you say. You’re not looking for the perfect pickup line. On the contrary, you just want something that’s going to make her smile and get her interested in what you have to say next.
When and How to Show Interest
Eventually, you’re going to have to get more serious. The best way to do that when you’re trying to pick up a girl at a club is to be very simple, but also very straightforward about it. Short, quick and straight to the point. That’s what you’re going for. If you want, throw in some compliment about anything especially on her or about her looks and you’re going to be good to go.
Getting to Know Her
Once you’ve done that, you two can start getting to know each other better. The best way to do this is to use open-ended questions. This gives her room to talk as much or as little as she wants. For example, asking her what she does for a living has a very definite (and short) answer but a question like what she would do if money were no object, is a much longer answer — one that keeps the conversational ball rolling and makes you look more interesting.
If you don’t take anything from this article, make sure to remember this “The best way to keep a conversation going and not boring is to use open-ended questions.”
