Unless you are Shina Peller, friends with Shina Peller or a top Lagos Socialite, you’ve probably been denied entry to a bar or club by a black-shirted, muscle filled and big looking bouncer who cannot be convinced you belong there. Just a few weeks ago i documented how i wasn’t just bounced from a Club by a wicked bouncer but flung away like a piece of paper. Imagine, after hours of preparing to go have fun on a Friday night, one macho looking bouncer just bounced me from a club like we had beef from somewhere.
While this was a really painful experience, over time i have found several ways, to talk my way through should i find myself in such a situation. Below are some tips to help you talk your way pass club bouncers every single time.
First off, Your Money Talks Louder than your Voice
Money is, of course, the ultimate motivator. And in this case, simple bribery may be the cleanest path to your entrance. While planning your night out, ensure to have a few bucks, should the bouncer on duty choose to show himself. While this could be just a small amount, depending on the popularity of the club, the kind of people that clubs there and possibly location it is advisable to keep a tangible sum possibly N2,000 upwards.
Flattery will never, ever, ever work
Think about what a bouncer is going through, “they have people coming up to them every five seconds, trying to sweet talk their way through them up. Flattery is what everyone tries. Doing the same thing is a sure way to get lost on the crowd and possibly make the bouncer to see you as someone who doesn’t deserve to enter. Skip the Flattery.
Be kind, respectful, and positive
Never act famous, like asking the bouncer “Do you know who i am? “. They probably don’t know you, if they did, they probably wouldn’t stop you in the first place. Bouncers occupy a weird space — they have all the power in that moment.
When you approach a situation with an overall sense of positivity and good nature, you automatically trigger the neurons in other people’s brains to make them feel a sense of well-being, too. Be happy to see the bouncer. Smile. Don’t be a jerk. This is the most basic advice I can give anyone approaching a negotiation. It’s so simple, but so often overlooked.”
